Its not cheating if your answer is "None of your fucking business."

If your response is "Wink, wink, nudge, nudge, say no more!" it is just disturbing.

Or a Monty Python skit.

 

i never winked or nudged, i said HE did- "he was saying it sexually from his facial wink and voice things"
but i did say "no" in the wrong place

 

How could that possibly be cheating?

 

well i felt guilty for saying "no" when he said "are you sure", so i thought it might of been cheating and was scared to tell my GF about it in case she leaves me because of it.

 

Having sex with someone else is cheating.

If he asked "Will you have sex with me" and you said "yes," then you'd have a problem.

 

oh yeah i see what you mean, interesting, then i will definitely tell my GF what happened seeing as its not cheating now

 

I better stop answering questions on this forum then?

 

Cheating?
Every couple has their boundaries of what is acceptable and what isn't.
We know couples who have multiple sex partners and we know couples who won't have lunch in a very public restaurant with a member of the opposite sex unless their partner is with them.
So for us, cheating is doing something outside of the boundaries you and your partner have established for your relationship.
If you've never formally established those boundaries, ask yourself this. Would your partner feel hurt by your action? Would they feel betrayed? Would you be in trouble?
If the answer to any of those is "yes" then it's cheating.
If you don't think it's cheating, go ahead and tell your partner what you did.

 

i'm not sure what our boundaries are yet and i've never told her what i'm about to tell her, but she has been angry at me at 10pinbowling when i was sitting with my knees were up when a man was with us

 

I think it kind of depends on the question, the gender of the person asking, his/her motive for asking and the amount of detail you put into the answer. I guess if you are just answering a question, then it's not really cheating but it could still be hurtful. If a guy asked me a question about my sex life, I think I would just tell him that I'm not comfortable answering such a question, or I'd tell him to go on XNXX and ask the people who know.

 

I think you tlk in circles.....basically trying to convince yourself you do not want to tlk to guys or want to have sex with guys. You clearly do!!!! Tell your gf that. Look i am just too curious about cock. So we either have to break up so i can have cock. Or you have to let me try cock out. But i just need cock!!!

 

No, but your significant other might not be pleased, and rightly so.

 

It' only cheating if they ask you while you are having sex with them at the same time

 

And any lover who would blame the recipient of engaging in a sexual discussion, 1, has no clue what sex is, and 2, does not deserve to be in a relationship with that person.

 

I was talking to your mother, just the other night,
I told her I thought you were an asshole, she said "yes, I think you're right

 

The answer to "am I cheating" is always the same albeit somewhat subjective, "Ask your girlfriend, wife, husband, boyfriend, etc?" I know from talking to my wife that online sexual romances or play means nothing and that of the very few platonic female relationships I've had she's fine with it and would know if I was cheating. Because I would tell her I was considering it in hopes she would step up and render it unnecessary!

 

Of course its not cheating, friends can discuss sexual things without it being a prelude to sex ...... although a few times it can admittedly lead to it.
The time to get worried is when a guy winks at you with other than his face

 

thanks i said that to my GF yesterday but she said my interest in men's bodies is in my head "unless you really think you can overcome your physical phobia but so far you've had trouble letting your massage therapist below your neck".
but i definitely am more interested in men's bodies than anything else for sure

its ok i told my GF and she said it was ok for me to be excited in my mind because she knows i'd never be sexual with a man

 

talking is not cheating...

 

i guess so, i guess i'm just guilted even when its not cheating, but i will probably be less guilted in the future i hope